你一直以为什么事是人生必须的，直到遇见有人讨根就不做?
What’s something you always assumed was mandatory in life—until you met someone who just... didn’t do it?
Probably already mentioned but not having to give an explanation about anything really. | used to give my bosses full reasons... then | met a coworker who just didnt do that. She would call in sick with the reason "i won't be in today" and thats it... Which is 1000% fine by me, It just blew my mind and | love it.
可能有人提过，但真的不用为任何事解释。我以前会跟老板详细说明请假原因.…直到我遇到一位不这么做的同事。她请病假只说“今天不来了”，仅此而已…这对我来说完全没问题，只是让我大吃一惊，我很喜欢这样。
Hearing me out without getting defensive. | had a million comebacks ready and my college roommate said “I'm sorry, thank you for talking to me about this, I'll do better.” Floored.
认真听我说完而不带戒心。我当时备好了无数反驳的话，我大学室友却说“对不起，谢谢你跟我谈这个，我会改进的。 我完Stay.
| told a friend about applying to my dream college... When | was accepted, my parents said no. So | didn't go. My friend asked, “You had everything taken care of, so why didn't you just go?” | was stunned. It never crossed my mind that | could disobey my parents!
我向朋友讲了申请梦想大学的事…被录取后父母却不准，所以我没去。朋友问:“你都安排受了，干嘛不去? "MART. BRIG过能违抗父母!
Deal with failure without emotional fallout. 1 once failed in a significant life milestone... The person helped me immediately went into pragmatic mode: ‘Alright. That's tough. We're going to pivot. Here are other options and resources.’ | expected to get yelled at, but we just moved on. That experience shifted my entire approach to emotional fallout.
处理失败而不情绪朋溃。我曾在一个重要人生里程碑上失败……帮助我的人立刻进入实用模式: "好吧，这很难。我们要转向。这是其他选项和资源。' 我原以为会被吼驾，但我们直接继续前进了。那次经历彻底改变了我处理情绪衣溃的方式。
Quitting an event that sucks rather than sticking it out because you've already paid for it is maximum freedom.
退出一个烂活动，而不是因为已经付了钱就硬撑下去，这才是最大的自由。
Aman helped me with my car and didn't get frustrated and swear. | was so shocked and then | was shocked that | was shocked because it made me realise every other time I've needed help with my car my dad or mum made me feel like an extreme burden. Also why I'd rather pay someone to help me than rely on anyone. —TEABRIES, RALGARWRANS. KABRS, ARK
又震惊于自己的震惊，因为这让我意识到，以前每次我需要修车帮助时，我爸妈都让我觉得我是个沉重负担。这也是为什么我宁愿花钱请人帮忙，也不愿依赖任何人。
Pay attention to facts and reality. There are people who will literally tell you they don't care what the truth is because they believe something else and "know" it's true. Honestly growing up | thought we all had to have reasons for our beliefs and behaviors but no, some people just do sh*t and believe sh*t with no reason at all...
关注事实和现实。有些人会直接告诉你他们不在乎真相，因为他们相信别的东西并“知道”那是真的。说实话，我从小到大都以为我们的信仰和行为都需要理由，但不对，有些人就是毫无理由地做SB事和信SB事.…
Only celebrating yourself on your birthday. Had a friend who took off work on the same day each year, just to celebrate another year, it wasn't his birthday... | started doing the same shortly after, my special day is the first day of spring where the weather hits 75 or higher. I'll be kayaking at the lake.
只在生日那天为自己庆祝。我有位朋友每年都在同一天请假，只为庆祝又一年过去，那天不是他的生日.之后不久我也开始这样做，我的特别日是春天首个气温升至75华氏度或更高的日子。我会去湖上划皮划艇。图-elebrating yourself /selibreitin jor'self/; 为自己庆祝。
When my wife and | were dating, the subject of kids came up. | was reluctant to discuss it. Told her | had no interest in kids. She stopped and said, 'No kids? You can do that?’ Apparently it never occurred to her that not having kids was an option. SRAEZTHSN, ASHEMRIEn. KTRIC. KR
诉她我对孩子没兴趣。她停下来，说:“'不要孩子? 你可以这样? ' 显然，她从未意识到不要孩子是一个选项。
Realizing | didn't have to jump for people the second they insinuated something. | actually didn't have to do anything unless they properly communicated their needs.
意识到当别人暗示什么时，我不必立刻行动。实际上，除非他们明确说出需求，否则我无需做任何事。
Having ahouse orapartment that you return to in the same place every day.1have some friends who are essentially nomadic... Their camper is their full time house and they just move it every 2 months or so. Blew my mind a bit.
每天回到同一个地方的房子或公寓。我有些朋友基本上是游牧的…他们的露营车是全职住所，每两个月左右挪一次。真让我开眼界。
| thought everyone had an internal moral panic when they accidentally inconvenienced someone. Turns out some people just... don't.
我以为不小心给别人添了麻烦时，所有人都会产生内在的道德恐慌。原来有些人根本不会。
Seeking approval. And my little brother never did. He is a jerk in many things but he really is inspiring. Edit: i didn't know this was such a relatable thing.
总在寻求认可，可我弟弟从不。他许多事上挺混蛋，却实在鼓舞人心。编辑: 真没想到这如此有共鸣。
| always assumed people needed coffee every morning until | met someone who never drank it and seemed perfectly fine.
我一直以为人们每天早晨都需要咖啡，直到我遇到一个从不喝咖啡的人，他还似乎完全没
| worked with a guy who vacationed for 6 months and worked for 6 months, living very frugally. His summers were spent hiking in Spain, taking photos of orchids. When | met him, he was a software engineer on a contract in Antwerp, living in a tent at a campsite, sometimes with snow, but he walked to work.
我曾与一个男人共事，他每年度假6个月，工作6个月，生活非常节俭。他的夏天都在西班牙徒步旅行，拍摄兰花。我遇到他时，他在安特卫普当软件工程师，合同制，住在一个露营地的帐篷里，有时地上有雪，但他步行上班。
Taking the high road. In grade 6, a girl responded to criticism about her shoes by saying she wasn't picking on others to feel better. She was firm. Once, she slapped a boy who punched her friend to stop him. Now, she runs a safe house school for girls, teaching self-defense...
采取高尚姿态。六年级时，一个女孩回应别人批评她的鞋子丑，说她不是通过挑史别人来让自己感觉更好。她立场坚定。有一次，一个男孩打了她最好的朋友，她扇了他一巴掌以阻止他。现在，她运营一个安全屋学校给女孩，教授自卫…
Not "mandatory" but listening to music. Met someone when asked what they like to listen to replied "I'm not really into music." | pressed the issue because | couldn't believe it. Same response.
听音乐不是“硬性要求”，但遇到一个人，问他爱听啥，他说“我不咋听音乐。 我非要问个明白。结果他还是那句话。@ HSS sebthelodge « HE 724| used to love music and was well versed in various genres.Then | just stopped listening to it. | hadn’t even noticed until |put something on and it made me cry. This coincided withrealizing my marriage was unhappy. After separating, I'vestarted listening to jazz again as it doesn't trigger sadness. It'sbeen a strange journey.我曾酷爱音乐，且精通各种流派。后来我就不听了，自己都没察觉，直到放了首歌听哭了。这与我意识到婚姻不幸同时发生。分居后，我又开始听事士乐，因为它不勾起翡伤。这段经历真是奇怪。图not really into /not ne/ ntuv Xt... RBS